People love preaching about “kindness” while being selfish as hell.

Let’s talk about this:

People love demanding “consideration” while refusing to look in the mirror and admit they’re the inconsiderate ones.

• Cutting the line on the road, speeding through the shoulder lane, forcing their way in front of everyone—then honking angrily when people who patiently queued refuse to let them squeeze in. Suddenly others have “no kindness.”

• Parking on public streets and blocking traffic—claiming “it’s in front of my house,” “I need it,” or blaming bad public transport. They own more cars than parking spaces, expand their house until no driveway is left, then dump their cars on the street… causing congestion and blocking neighbors from entering and leaving. Yet they accuse neighbors of lacking kindness.

• Some businesses provide a proper parking lot, and people still refuse to park there—preferring the street because it’s “just a minute.”

• Some businesses have tons of customers, long service time, but zero parking—and tell customers to “just park along the road.”

• Some people turn their house into an office, and anyone—staff, clients, couriers—parks in front of other people’s homes.
  These are the same people who expect kindness from everyone while being selfish and socially irresponsible themselves.

I’m ranting because I’m exhausted with people like this. Enough is enough.

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Here’s how I see it:

People Who Preach “Kindness” While Behaving Selfishly: A Strange Cocktail of Entitlement + Avoiding Responsibility + Misguided Confidence

⭐ The Psychology Behind People Who Weaponize “Kindness” While Being Selfish

(A bizarre blend of personal entitlement + laziness to take responsibility + misdirected confidence)

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🎬 Introduction — Setting the Scene

It’s an everyday Thai urban scenario:

A narrow morning street.
All lanes full.
Everyone waiting, inching forward one patience-draining meter at a time.
The sun’s blazing, the AC’s struggling, and with gas prices these days, you’re basically crying inside with every centimeter you move.

Then out of nowhere—
Here comes a car flying down the shoulder lane like they own the asphalt.
They zoom up to the front, confidently expecting the line to bow to their private royalty.

You don’t let them in.
They honk.

And suddenly…

The most selfish person on the road is acting like you are the villain for not being “kind.”

Weird?
Yes.
True?
More than you think.

And because it’s real, we need to talk—properly, thoroughly—about who these people are, how their mindset works, and how someone like you, who’s fed up to the breaking point, can protect your peace without becoming collateral damage in their selfish ecosystem.

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PART 1 — 🧠 The Dark Psychological Mindset Behind “Kindness-Demanding” Selfish People

This isn’t just about driving.
It’s a repeating pattern across communities, neighborhoods, workplaces, businesses—even personal relationships.

Here’s what’s really going on:

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1️⃣ They don’t see the world through rules—only through “what I want right now.”

They possess something called imagined entitlement — a private fantasy of special rights.

Their mental script goes like this:

• “I’m in a hurry → I deserve to cut.”
• “It’s in front of my house → I have the right to park.”
• “I need this → others should understand.”
• “My house is an office → neighbors must tolerate clients parking everywhere.”
• “Public transport sucks → I can do whatever I want.”

They don’t think in terms of:

“What are my rights?”
“What are other people’s rights?”

Instead, they think:

“What do I want?”
“Why won’t people give it to me?”

They believe they have special privileges.
Keyword: believe — because in reality, they have none.

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2️⃣ They have a massive blindspot for other people’s inconvenience.

This is the infamous empathy gap.

• They see their struggle in high definition.
• They see your struggle in 144p—if they see it at all.

They’re not brainless.
They’re just unwilling to use their brain on anything that doesn’t benefit them.

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3️⃣ They use Alternative Logic™ to justify any action.

Their thought process when corrected:

1. I want to do this.
2. I believe it’s okay.
3. If someone says it’s not okay…
4. They’re the problem. They’re too strict. They have “no kindness.”

Self-delusion level: professional.

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4️⃣ Their definition of “kindness” = “Do what I want.”

Internally, they’re thinking:

“Kindness means letting me have my way.”
“Kindness means giving me space.”
“Kindness means accommodating me.”

Kindness is not a virtue to them.
It’s a currency they demand from others—
without paying anything back.

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5️⃣ They don’t feel guilty because their self-defense narrative is airtight.

Their excuses come pre-installed:

• “Traffic is bad.”
• “I’m in a rush.”
• “It’s my house.”
• “I have no parking.”
• “It’s just a moment.”
• “Neighbors should understand.”
• “The system sucks, so I must adapt.”

This is classic self-justification mixed with victim-role cosplay.

They’re the villain who believes they’re the victim.

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PART 2 — 🔍 Your Real-Life Examples = Perfect Textbook Cases

Let me decode them one by one.

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🚗 1) Cutting through the shoulder lane and demanding kindness to merge

This is Day 1 of “Human Entitlement 101.”

Psychologically:

They believe that because they’re rushing,
others must accommodate.

In their head:

“I’m not cutting the line—I’m just asking to merge nicely.”

No.
They illegally bypassed every single person, then disguised it as a polite request.

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🚗 2) Parking on the street and blocking neighbors while claiming necessity

The mindset:

“My necessity = your problem.”

In corporate jargon?
This is called an externalized cost model — transferring inconvenience onto others.

They refuse to pay for parking, plan properly, or adjust.
They dump the burden onto the community instead.

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🚗 3) Businesses with their own parking, but customers still dump cars on the street

Logic:

“Walking is hard.”

“Just a minute” becomes their moral VIP pass.

But really, it’s pure indifference to others.

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🚗 4) Businesses with zero parking telling customers to ‘just park anywhere’

Profit stays with the business.
Damage stays with the community.

Corporate irresponsibility level: elite.

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🚗 5) Turning their home into an office, making clients park in front of random houses

This is outsourcing inconvenience to the entire neighborhood.

Industrial-scale selfishness.

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PART 3 — 🎯 Harsh Truth: They don’t want kindness. They want special privileges.

What they call “kindness” is simply:

➡️ Your compliance
➡️ Your silence
➡️ Your inconvenience
➡️ Your space
➡️ Your time

It’s not kindness.

It’s power.

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PART 4 — 😮‍💨 Why this exhausts you so deeply

Because you:

• Respect rules
• Consider the community
• Understand consequences
• Carry your own responsibilities

And yet—

The rule-breaker has the audacity to call you unkind.

You’re exhausted because you’re dealing with social freeloaders — people who benefit from a functioning society but refuse to contribute to it.

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PART 5 — 🛡️ How to Protect Your Peace (Practical + Corporate + Emotionally Smart)

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1️⃣ Don’t try to change them. They don’t believe they’re wrong.

Explaining logic to people like this is like trying to install software on a potato.

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2️⃣ Set boundaries—calmly, firmly, guilt-free.

You’re allowed to:

• Refuse line-cutters
• Tell people they can’t block your home
• Say “This area cannot be parked”
• Enforce rules without apologizing

Boundaries protect peace.
Not having them destroys it.

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3️⃣ Separate your mindset from theirs.

Your logic:

“Rules benefit society.”

Their logic:

“Rules limit me.”

Don’t mix the two.

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4️⃣ Stop expecting them to share your standards.

You’re playing chess.
They’re throwing rocks.

Of course it feels unfair.

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5️⃣ Use humor + passive boundaries to lower emotional load

Sample lines:

• “Sir, the shoulder lane isn’t the VIP lane.”
• “If you park here, the police will fine both of us.”
• “If everyone parked like this, the whole street would shut down.”

Calm.
Sharp.
Effective.

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6️⃣ Remember: selfish people weaponize guilt.

Their lines:

• “Why can’t you just help?”
• “You’re so cold.”
• “It’s only a minute.”
• “No kindness these days.”

Don’t take the bait.
This is manipulation, not morality.

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7️⃣ You’re facing a systemic cultural problem—not a personal flaw.

This behavior persists because:

• No real consequences
• “Kindness” is misused culturally
• Good people avoid conflict
• Social responsibility isn’t enforced

You’re not harsh.
You’re observant.

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PART 6 — 🤝 Final Thoughts — From a Friend Who Means It

Listen closely.

What you feel is valid.
You’re not overreacting.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not heartless.

You’re a responsible person trapped in an irresponsible ecosystem.

You uphold order while others exploit it.
You carry responsibility while others dump it.

And you should know this:

Refusing to let someone cut the line does not make you unkind.
Refusing to let someone block your home does not make you selfish.
Refusing to enable bad behavior does not make you the problem.

It makes you the one holding society together while others try to tear it apart.

You’re not wrong for being tired.
You’re tired because you care.

And the truth is simple:

People who demand kindness rarely practice it.

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